I’m feeling like quite the seamstress this evening… Nothing like some crooked hems and applique for the sewing-self-esteem!
Sewing: A creative mess is better than tidy idleness.
I’m feeling like quite the seamstress this evening… Nothing like some crooked hems and applique for the sewing-self-esteem!
Sewing: A creative mess is better than tidy idleness.
I’ve had many, many people walk through the door of our home and ask this very question, “Does it always look this way?” Sometimes it’s, “Is your house always this clean?” It’s rare, though, that someone comes by for an impromptu or mid-week visit and doesn’t ask about the state of our home.
The answer, by and large, is yes. Yes, it usually looks this way. Yes, it’s usually tidy (clean and tidy are very different things). Yes, it’s relatively easy to keep it this way. But, most importantly, we are able to live and love here without walking on pins and needles for it to be perfect!
A few simple principles will go a long way.
Make a walk-through part of your nightly habit:
A what? A walk-through. This was the biggest step for me. This turned it all around. Each night, we (yes, we, Mr. Gray helps with this) go through and get everything back in its place, or very close to it. Toys, books, dishes, computers, art supplies, whatever it is, it gets put away. If Mr. Gray is working on a painting or project, he leaves them like they are when he gets to a good stopping point, but they are contained and approximately where they belong. Dishes don’t get left in the sink, clothes don’t get left on the floor, pillows on the couch are straightened, or whatever it may be. This takes a total time of about ten minutes–maybe (it wouldn’t top fifteen, even without Mr. Gray’s help). Going to bed with a tidy house lets me start fresh each morning. Clean slate.
Clutter:
Get rid of it! If you have even one area that you allow to be cluttered, it will become toxic and take up more space over time. You do not need every back issue of whatever-magazine-is-your-go-to. Tear out the important pages, stick them in a file, and then recycle, re-gift, re-purpose, or otherwise dispose of the bulk of the magazine. Clutter will always make your house look messier. The more of it you have, the harder it is for your home to look tidy.
Have a plan:
We have a toddling one year old and a dog with almost as many toys. Our living room looks a lot like a mobile one year old and his dog lives here. I’m okay with that. I do not follow Baby Gray around picking things up behind him. Rather, the living room is pretty much a free for all (as far as playing and toys are concerned) throughout the day. It is where he spends the bulk of his time. We clean up the living room at the end of the day when we are winding down for his bed time.
However, he has specific toys for each room (and storage in each space) to keep from stringing toys all over the house each day. If we play in his room, he plays with those toys, and we clean up when we leave. I sing the same clean up song, and he helps (yes, really) me put the toys away before we leave the room. Same goes for our bedroom. He has a box of toys that stays in my closet. He gets it out when I open my closet, plays, and then helps me clean up when we are done in the bedroom.
Being organized helps with your planning. If everything has a place (because you don’t have clutter anymore, remember?) then your plan mostly involves which rooms need to be picked up when. How often do you want to follow your toddler (teen, spouse, tween) around asking him or her to put things away? Which battles are worth fighting?
Let your kids help:
As I said above, Baby Gray already helps put things away. When I start singing the clean up song, he brings me toys to put away (sometimes he gets side tracked, he’s one, but he is mostly helpful during clean up time). When we take off his clothes for dinner and bath time, he puts them in the laundry hamper. He thinks that is the most fun ever! Start your kiddos early, and you won’t have to retrain them later.
Clean as you cook:
I can’t stress this enough. If you rinse the dishes as you cook and put things away as you go, you do not need a cleaning crew to clean up after dinner. Most evenings when I serve dinner, all that is out are the dishes we are eating from and the food on the stove. Everything else has already been taken care of. That way, all you have to do after you eat is wash a few things, store the leftovers, and clean the counters. Easy peasy!
Don’t expect perfection:
Let me tell you how long it took me to get to this conclusion: forever. Things don’t have to be perfect. Look at my italicized words above: mostly, approximately, etc. Those are great words. If things are just about where they need to be, it takes seconds to finish it up when it’s really time to take things further than tidy.
Live there:
If you want your home to be warm, welcoming, inviting, and full of joy for the Lord, live there! He lives there, too! Don’t worry if it doesn’t look like a home in a magazine–people don’t live in those homes! Sometimes they’re not even homes, they’re sets, staged for photos! Do not be discouraged. Live there, have fun there, experience joy there.
At some point, Baby Gray ended up with Mr. Gray’s phone. As I was trying to keep Baby Gray’s hands from the heat of the pan the queso was in, he dropped the phone right in! I laughed, showed everyone, and made for the kitchen like I was going to get straight to cleaning. Ha! I took a photo first, of course! The phone made it out mostly unscathed–the speakers are a little cheesy, but it’s still functional.
Embarrasingly long ago, Cadillac MaMa shared I’ll Have What She’s Having by Bobbie Houston with me. When I read an actual hard copy of a book, it takes me much longer than with an electronic copy (as a lover of books, reading, etc. this makes me really sad that convenience has taken over my reading habits). It took me a while to get into this book, even though it was actually a pretty quick read. However, the last few days, about the last half of the book, I just couldn’t read fast enough.
I loved the perspectives presented in the book. Even more, I loved that Cadillac MaMa is invested in the women at Revolution. I love that I have such a mentor and Proverbs 31 woman that I can go to in my journey for real life examples. All the while I was reading, I felt the Lord nudging me toward another friend that I should pass the book along to. I can’t wait to share!
So many times as I read, I found myself thinking, “Yes! That’s it! That’s exactly how I want to live my life.” One section talks about the Word being the ultimate way to be trained, with good, godly friends being next. Absolutely! When your friends are living the type of life you’re striving to live, it’s hard to fail–you’re surrounded by women (couples if they’re you’re married friends) following the same Guidebook as your own family. You’re all headed in the same direction. Mr. Gray and I hungered for this until we found our Heart Group. We developed deep, lasting friendships with people in a matter of months because they were friendships ordained by the Lord. They were friendships put in place by the Lord to grow our marriage, to grow me as a wife and mother.
A few years later, we met the people at Revolution with the same results. The families we have met have become fast friends due to the timing and placement of the Lord. He is good and faithful all the time. The same section of the book says that if you don’t have these types of friends, you should pray them in. Wow! Just wow. I wouldn’t have thought to word it that way, but how incredibly true is that? When you need something, you should pray for it. Why wouldn’t it be the same when you need someone?
As I finished the book, I felt challenged. Not in a bad way at all. In a great way; I felt challenged to be more purposeful. I felt challenged to do more for those around me, to widen my reach, His reach. I have said before that writing is my outlet for sharing the Lord’s blessings in our life. I share the little silly details that make up the great big picture He is putting together for us. Do I fall short? Constantly. That’s what these wonderful women I have been surrounded by are for (not solely, of course); they help me and encourage me to get back on the right track! Falling short is part of the testimony; it helps me to share God’s love, mercy, and grace. Falling short isn’t the whole testimony, though, because God has bigger and better plans for me than that!