Marriage Matters: Fit Family

Marriage Matters- Fit Family

Sometimes between work, marriage, parenting, life, and all the other details that make up each day, it’s not always easy to get a workout in the mix. For quite some time, we let too many days go by with nothing on the fitness front even crossing our mind.

For our family, our success has come when we shifted the way we thought about working out. Rather than a traditional hour class at the gym or a five mile run, we have started making family evenings at the park our workout. We can mix and match activities to make it fit our time frame and needs for the day.

Sometimes I push the stroller when Mr. Gray runs.

High Five

Other times he pushes while I do yoga in the park.

On the Mat

Sometimes we push Baby Gray on his bike. We play baseball, soccer, and anything in between.

For us, it’s as important for Baby Gray to see us making healthy choices as it is for us to make them. We want him to choose to be fit and work hard as well. He loves to come to my races; he tells everyone that as soon as he’s five he can play baseball. We want to foster those choices for him while keeping ourselves in shape, too.

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Marriage Matters: Pieces to the Puzzle

Marriage Matters- Pieces to the Puzzle

Let’s have a little throwback Thursday action today. What do you say?
(Originally published April 2012.)

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Sometimes when things just fall into place, we forget the little pieces that got us there. We forget that it’s still a story God wrote with a purpose, and that it was carefully penned to bring us to where we are supposed to be. I was brainstorming for a project I saw on Pinterest the other day, and it reminded me of an integral piece of our puzzle as Mr. and Mrs. Gray.


Once upon a time, Mr. Gray was a freshman and I was a sophomore–in high school, that is. We broke up for a stint because I was pretty interested in “us” being for the long haul, and Mr. Gray was pretty interested in being a high school boy. A month from the day we broke up, I knew we were both scheduled to be at the airport, Mr. Gray on his way home from a world series tournament in Tennessee, me on my way out to see my cousin. Because we had been broken up, I didn’t know times, details, etc., I just knew the day was common. 

Let me just say, for the record and all, I had been pretty dramatic about the break up; I was more than certain we were supposed to be together. I was sixteen. That doesn’t always go over well. Regardless of what anyone else thought, though, I was convinced. The night before the possible airport encounter (we hadn’t spoken at all in that month span), I prayed very specifically that if we were supposed to talk again we would see each other.

As my mom drove me to the airport, my eyes were fixed on the passing cars (I had decided to take “see each other” very literally; seeing their vehicle would count, too). The key point to the rest of our story was at a stoplight in Lockhart. Mr. Gray and his dad were stopped at the same intersection we were. I hopped on my Nokia (the one with the interchangeable face plates; you know you had one, too) and dialed him up. The rest, as they say, is history. 

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Astros Game

While that month is pretty insignificant in the big picture, when I told someone that story a few months ago, it was so neat to see how carefully God orchestrated the whole scene. It was the first time I had truly reflected what that prayer meant for me.

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Marriage Matters: Gotta Getaway

Marriage Matters-Gotta Getaway

Today we’re off on our California getaway for my 30th birthday–even though it’s not until next month!

I’m so excited for this trip, this time to recharge, reconnect, and just be together. I almost feel like it’s our honeymoon all over again. We’ve done several just-the-two-of-us trips, but this one seems different for some reason. I love this man, and I’m so excited to get away with him while we celebrate my old age!

Honeymoon

Do you take trips with your spouse?

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Marriage Matters: Tuesday Ten

Marriage Matters- Tuesday Ten

I’ve been missing Tuesday Ten since I started the #write31days challenge, so I’m bringing it back! It’s Tuesday Ten: Marriage Edition.

1. I thought I only wanted to be married for a short time before having kids. In reality, we waited almost five years to add to our family, and it was the perfect amount time!

2. I cry when marriages fail on TV. I just can’t handle the thought.

3. At the ripe ol’ age of 21, I had no idea what to expect in marriage, but we have grown and learned together. It’s been an amazing ride so far–I can’t wait to see where the journey takes us.

4. When Mr. Gray isn’t home, I don’t sleep well. You can find me with any combination of the following next to my bed: knives, guns, cell phone, landline phone, baseball bat, and the list goes on and on… I don’t do well without him here.

5. We tend to be the perfect balance for each other–for all the things we agree on, we have at least as many that we are opposite about. The fun part is working together to find the perfect solution for us.

6. I am not the iron-er in our family–and for that I am very grateful.

7. I’m really excited about about the half-way mark–you know, the one where we’ve been together more than we haven’t been together. We’re almost there!

8. Mr. Gray used to leave fun gifts in my car in high school. I still love his little surprises!

9. We’d love to visit the historic baseball fields in the US. It was a trip we considered for our honeymoon. One of these days we’ll get to do it!

Baseball Fun

10. I love doing life with this husband of mine. I can’t imagine anyone else beside me until the end of my days. Mushy? Maybe. True? Absolutely.

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Marriage Matters: Glory in Grace

Marriage Matters- Glory in Grace

Thirty-one days of writing is a lot of days. I’m going to do it, though, because that’s what I do when I set my mind to something (remember those three half-marathons; boy, I’m glad that’s over).

Family

Being married is a lot of days, too. It’s a lot of days to do something–it’s a lifetime. So maybe that’s the metaphor here. Why blog? Why write? Why be committed to this space for a lot of days? See, every time I sit back and prioritize this space of mine always finds it’s way to the top. I truly believe God has given be stories to share. I believe He has given me this “normal” life to live to share the glory of His grace in the every day living we do.

Family

I don’t have a huge platform or thousands of readers, but if there is one person who is helped by something I post, then everything I’ve posted is worth it. If one mom felt better about her grocery store trip, if one person dealt with their grief and saw God’s beauty, if one family was able to share their heart for adoption, if someone just needed to know someone else is going through what they’re going through, then it’s all worth it.

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Marriage Matters: The Other Side of the Coin

Marriage Matters- The Other Side of the Coin

Marriage is definitely not one-sided. It takes both parties working to make it go ’round. So, today, we’ll get a few tidbits of wisdom from Mr. Gray himself–even if the day is almost over! I’m holding strong on 31 days here. Please take these with a grain of salt–he was in a goofy mood when we started.

Goofs

Me: What would you tell someone entering a new marriage?
Mr. Gray: I would say that you need to learn to put the seat down, make your bed, fold the towels correctly, and dry your feet before you step out of the shower. If you can master those things, marriage is easy.

Me: How have you changed as a husband in the past eight years? 
Mr. Gray: I’d like to think I’m a little less selfish and a little more responsible.

Me: What is something you thought would be different when you got married?
Mr. Gray: I really had no preconceived notions.

Me: Were the wedding details really that important?
Mr. Gray: Uh, yeah.

Me: What’s the goofiest thing your wife has ever done?
Mr. Gray: She does a lot of goofy things, and I’m unable to put my finger on just one. It seems like everyday there’s something silly.

Me: What’s the best thing about your wife? 
Mr. Gray: She is very motivating. I think that’s pretty cool.

What pearls of wisdom would your husband share?

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Marriage Matters: Power

Marriage Matters- Power

(I’m not talking about the Aggie runout song here.)

We tell our son all the time, “Your words have power.” Another reminder we use often is, “Use your words to build people up.

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While these are important for our four year old, they’re oh-so-important in marriage. As a married person, the most powerful words on earth are the words of your spouse.

Are you using words to build your spouse up and pour life into your marriage? 

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Marriage Matters: Please Advise

Marriage Matters- Please Advise

When we first got married, advice was flooding in from all sides. I always feel like it is important to listen to what people have to say and take from it what pertains to your situation–sometimes that’s all of it; sometimes it’s none of it; sometimes it’s right in between. (Warning, affiliate links are coming.)

We were given The Most Important Year in a Woman’s Life, The/The Most Important Year in a Man’s Lifeas a wedding gift, and we both really enjoyed what it had to offer (I’m not a non-fiction book person). It raised some good questions and gave us some good talking points that we otherwise might not have thought of.

What advice were you given when you got married? What’d you put to use and what’d you forget you ever heard?

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Marriage Matters: It’s a Date!

Marriage Matters- It's a Date

Last night, we headed out for a fun date–just the two of us! It hasn’t been part of our regular schedule lately (we’re working on getting it back), so it was an extra special evening. We get the added benefit of having the car ride there and back added into our date time, and it was good to reconnect.

Date Night

We’re going to California next week (San Jose, San Franciso, etc) for an early 30th birthday celebration, and we were able to talk and scheme about that trip as well! We’re hoping to squeeze in a World Series game while we’re out there–wouldn’t that be cool? (Have any ticket connections?) Have any favorite activities out that way?

For now, I’m off to battle these nasty allergies of mine that have come back with a vengeance. They were terrible prior to becoming pregnant, and they have picked back up again. I don’t plan to live this way again. I want to be my best me for all involved parties! 

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By the way, I was over on MOMQuery yesterday talking about working from home; head on over to check it out! You know, in case you just can’t get enough of my writing! (read here)

Marriage Matters: Takin’ It Back

Marriage Matters- Takin It Back

Sometimes it’s fun to go back and remember the good times. Let’s jump in for a little #waybackwednesday action. I still tell this story from last year:
(Originally published November 2013.)

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We weren’t in our usual seats for the first half of Saturday’s match up against UTEP. We left our friends in section 119 sit with some friends who had extra tickets (imagine that: extra tickets for an 8:00 pm kick against a non-conference opponent). All that to say we weren’t with our usual crowd.

UTEP

Mr. Gray headed down to get me some hot chocolate, and I felt a hand on my back, “How long have y’all been married?” she asked, clearly expecting my answer to be less than a year or so.

I did a little math in my head and finally came up with, “Oh, seven or eight years.” (I never know how old I am, either, if that helps.)

Astonished, she exclaimed, “And he still winks at you?” She continued, but I didn’t really hear her. I was still trying to figure out when he winked at me. How did I miss that?

When Mr. Gray returned with the hot chocolate (with an extra for the wife of a seat-mate he made friends with when we got there–he’s just that kind of guy) I told him the story.

His response? “I winked at you?” HAHA!  The Grays, keepin’ it hot one wink (or not) at a time!

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